Comments on: The pain and the shame http://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/ All creative works from Mur Lafferty Wed, 01 Feb 2012 07:59:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kimihttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1685 Kimi Wed, 17 Feb 2010 11:28:11 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1685 You should be proud of yourself Mur for getting back in the game and doing so well. Trust me I know all too well what it's like to desperately want to give into tears in the middle of a sparing match. It took me forever to be able to just suck it up and let it go. Even towards the end of my martial arts career I gave in now and then.I think it's awesome you are back doing something you use to enjoy. Your stamina will come back and you'll be kickin ass and taking names. I envy your ability to do Judo. I think I made 3 throws in the whole time I did it. I sucked at Judo, lol. Thank god for other ways to kick people in the butt. :) Keep up the good work and give your self a break when you aren't feeling it. You should be proud of yourself Mur for getting back in the game and doing so well. Trust me I know all too well what it’s like to desperately want to give into tears in the middle of a sparing match. It took me forever to be able to just suck it up and let it go. Even towards the end of my martial arts career I gave in now and then.

I think it’s awesome you are back doing something you use to enjoy. Your stamina will come back and you’ll be kickin ass and taking names. I envy your ability to do Judo. I think I made 3 throws in the whole time I did it. I sucked at Judo, lol. Thank god for other ways to kick people in the butt. :) Keep up the good work and give your self a break when you aren’t feeling it.

]]> By: CKHBhttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1684 CKHB Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:14:24 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1684 Sigh. You've reminded me that I need to get back in dance class, even if I get frustrated that I remember that my body USED to be able to do these moves easily and gracefully and with strength... and now I'm (like you) not-overweight-but-not-fit-to-my-preferred-standards.I wish I could just be stronger without it all being so hard. Sigh. You’ve reminded me that I need to get back in dance class, even if I get frustrated that I remember that my body USED to be able to do these moves easily and gracefully and with strength… and now I’m (like you) not-overweight-but-not-fit-to-my-preferred-standards.

I wish I could just be stronger without it all being so hard.

]]> By: MikeAlxhttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1683 MikeAlx Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:46:43 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1683 About the only tip I remember about throws is this: if they're not going over, take a step backwards. It's all about weight distribution. Worked for me, anyway - green belt Judo, circa 1979 ;-) About the only tip I remember about throws is this: if they’re not going over, take a step backwards. It’s all about weight distribution. Worked for me, anyway – green belt Judo, circa 1979 ;-)

]]> By: Paulhttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1682 Paul Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:00:24 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1682 Hang in there Mur!Don't give up and remember during your sparing that if your already getting pummeled what can it hurt to hit back? Your already getting pummeled. :) That thought helped me those times when I was backed into a corner just trying to protect myself.I think I will look up my local dojos and see if my style is taught around here.Thanks, Hang in there Mur!

Don’t give up and remember during your sparing that if your already getting pummeled what can it hurt to hit back? Your already getting pummeled. :) That thought helped me those times when I was backed into a corner just trying to protect myself.

I think I will look up my local dojos and see if my style is taught around here.

Thanks,

]]> By: Joehttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1681 Joe Sat, 06 Feb 2010 23:45:11 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1681 Welcome back to the world of martial arts. The key to success when returning after a break is to keep going even when you don't feel like it. After a few sessions of humiliation, it's hard to go back the next time. There's always another excuse, similar to the excuses to not write.Good luck and have fun with the training. Welcome back to the world of martial arts. The key to success when returning after a break is to keep going even when you don’t feel like it. After a few sessions of humiliation, it’s hard to go back the next time. There’s always another excuse, similar to the excuses to not write.

Good luck and have fun with the training.

]]> By: Howardhttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1680 Howard Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:33:16 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1680 Congrats on getting back to kung fu! I had a medical thing that stopped me from going to tai chi about 5 years ago and your story reminded me how much I miss it. Now to see if I can work it back into my schedule...As my teacher always said "listen to your body". There will be time to push yourself later, but for now don't push it. You will not develop the routine of going to class if you can't move your arms for 5 days after going to class :). (Ok, it was 3 days for me after my first yoga class so I speak from experience.) Congrats on getting back to kung fu! I had a medical thing that stopped me from going to tai chi about 5 years ago and your story reminded me how much I miss it. Now to see if I can work it back into my schedule…

As my teacher always said “listen to your body”. There will be time to push yourself later, but for now don’t push it. You will not develop the routine of going to class if you can’t move your arms for 5 days after going to class :) . (Ok, it was 3 days for me after my first yoga class so I speak from experience.)

]]> By: Brucehttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1679 Bruce Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:24:03 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1679 I'm 53 and learning chen's tai chi from a sifu who stresses combat applications. It's bascially an hour and a half of pain each week, but worth it. Best part is after class when we work on jianshu - THAT I'm good at. Keep up the log. It helps, as one who can pass for Santa without padding, to know that others are struggling as well. I’m 53 and learning chen’s tai chi from a sifu who stresses combat applications. It’s bascially an hour and a half of pain each week, but worth it. Best part is after class when we work on jianshu – THAT I’m good at. Keep up the log. It helps, as one who can pass for Santa without padding, to know that others are struggling as well.

]]> By: Sara Nashhttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1678 Sara Nash Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:23:03 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1678 Hang in there. Muscle memory will kick in. Hang in there. Muscle memory will kick in.

]]> By: Bradhttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1677 Brad Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:29:53 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1677 Thanks for sharing, Mur. I've seen many fellow students go through the same process of coming back after a break. It's painful, and it gets easier. Like most things in martial arts. Keep it up. And let yourself cry. I've found it helps more than it hurts. Thanks for sharing, Mur. I’ve seen many fellow students go through the same process of coming back after a break. It’s painful, and it gets easier. Like most things in martial arts. Keep it up. And let yourself cry. I’ve found it helps more than it hurts.

]]> By: Alishahttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1676 Alisha Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:23:10 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1676 Mur, I hear you! I just took up Tae Kwon Do after ten years off. Instead of recovering from childbirth, I am recovering from surgery. The first couple practices were great because it felt so good to be back in the game and I could ignore the out-of-shape pain. Now that I am past that "honeymoon" period, I am just tired, hurt all the time and don't really have the drive to go to practice. I keep on though, hoping that once I get in better shape, some of the fun will come back. One thing that has been helpful is to schedule the practices just like I would any other work gig or appointment. Then I am less likely to let myself off the hook. I'll be reading your blog and sympathizing! Mur, I hear you! I just took up Tae Kwon Do after ten years off. Instead of recovering from childbirth, I am recovering from surgery. The first couple practices were great because it felt so good to be back in the game and I could ignore the out-of-shape pain. Now that I am past that “honeymoon” period, I am just tired, hurt all the time and don’t really have the drive to go to practice. I keep on though, hoping that once I get in better shape, some of the fun will come back. One thing that has been helpful is to schedule the practices just like I would any other work gig or appointment. Then I am less likely to let myself off the hook. I’ll be reading your blog and sympathizing!

]]> By: Matthew Turlandhttp://www.murverse.com/2010/02/05/the-pain-and-the-shame/#comment-1675 Matthew Turland Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:37:07 +0000 http://murverse.com/?p=1209#comment-1675 Your persistence and determination is admirable, Mur. I recently made an attempt at getting back into judo after having been out for several years myself. Unfortunately, I've been deterred by illness and other commitments, but I do plan on trying to make it a regular activity. It is definitely a hard thing to do if you haven't done similar physical activities in a while, but I agree that it will be worth it once you've settled in again. Keep writing about your experiences; I think they're a great inspiration to others in your situation. :) Your persistence and determination is admirable, Mur. I recently made an attempt at getting back into judo after having been out for several years myself. Unfortunately, I’ve been deterred by illness and other commitments, but I do plan on trying to make it a regular activity. It is definitely a hard thing to do if you haven’t done similar physical activities in a while, but I agree that it will be worth it once you’ve settled in again. Keep writing about your experiences; I think they’re a great inspiration to others in your situation. :)

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